Finding Self-Compassion When Living with Chronic Illness

Finding Self-Compassion When Living with Chronic Illness

Have you ever noticed how much easier it is to show compassion towards others than it is to give that to yourself? Do you find that you are quick to be frustrated with yourself when experiencing physical symptoms of an illness, rather than be compassionate towards yourself? Are you asking yourself right now, "what does self-compassion towards oneself when living with chronic illness even look like?"

Three Signs that You are Stuck in a Power Struggle with Your Partner

Three Signs that You are Stuck in a Power Struggle with Your Partner

Do you find yourself constantly arguing with your partner?  Do you wonder why you can not just let the disagreement go and move forward? Do you feel the need to be right with your partner no matter how inconsequential being right is? If you answered yes to these questions then you may be stuck in a power struggle.

Three Common Feelings & Frustrations When Living with Chronic Illness

Three Common Feelings & Frustrations When Living with Chronic Illness

Do you live with a chronic illness and find yourself wondering if others who live with illness experience similar feelings to you? Do you find yourself wondering if you are overreacting or whether your feelings are valid? Do others who do not live with illness oftentimes not quite understand why you may be having the feelings that you are having?

Moving Toward a Mutual Vulnerability In Your Relationship!

Moving Toward a Mutual Vulnerability In Your Relationship!

It is oftentimes easier to become defensive during conflict in a relationship than it is to be vulnerable. This is NOT A SURPRISE! Typically one or both partners are already feeling hurt, hence the conflict, and the idea of further exposing oneself may seem self-destructive. So people default to defensiveness, which serves to create a protective wall around oneself and which prevents oneself from looking at their own contribution to the conflict.

Can I Possibly Have the New Daddy Blues?

Can I Possibly Have the New Daddy Blues?

Are you a first time father? If you are, then you may likely be experiencing a kaleidoscope of emotions. Sure you are probably thrilled that you have a beautiful new baby in your life, whom you love enormously. However, there could be a number of other emotions that you are experiencing that may feel like things that are "not ok" to talk about.  

Mourning and Loss: Seasons of Change, Seasons of Pain and Love

Mourning and Loss:  Seasons of Change, Seasons of Pain and Love

The loss of a loved one is never an easy situation to process. There can be so many emotions present; emotions about the person who's passed, as well as emotions about one's own life. One may find themselves feeling very positively about the person who has passed away or perhaps angry at the person for leaving life, among other feelings

Through My Lens

Through My Lens

I often find myself wondering if people who do not live with a chronic illness are aware of how often those living with a chronic condition tend to blame themselves and feel shame for things that are really out of their control. It is my inclination to believe that most people do not think about the intensity and frequency of self-blame, guilt, and shame that people living with chronic illnesses may inflict on themselves. These experiences of blame, guilt, and shame can be quite emotionally painful and can oftentimes result in the person doing things that are not in his or her best interest in order to not feel painful feelings.

Normal, the norm...Whats that? What's My Normal?

Normal, the norm...Whats that? What's My Normal?

When living with chronic pain or chronic illness long enough, at times some people can start to believe that their discomfort is normal, until a moment comes and they are reminded that in fact it is not. Many people who live with chronic pain and illness may quickly understand what I am referring to... those moments when you look around and realize that nobody else in the room is experiencing the pain that you are. This may feel obvious to some; however, pain and discomfort may have become the new normal for many people living with pain. It is always or usually there, and some people may have even forgotten what it is like to live without it.

Mommy's Worst Nightmare!

Mommy's Worst Nightmare!

Living with a chronic illness and managing one's own life can be an enormous challenge. A person may have to make accommodations and adjustments to their daily routine, including things like meals, physical activity, work, and social events. This can often feel frustrating and challenging. However, many mothers who live with chronic illness much rather prefer that to what it feels like having to manage their illness while also being a parent.

Women, STDs, and the Emotional Rollercoaster

Women, STDs,  and the Emotional Rollercoaster

Being diagnosed with a sexually transmitted disease (STD) is not just of medical concern. It can also have a tremendous impact on a woman's emotional wellbeing. The various emotions a woman will experience will of course vary depending on the particular individual, and the specific type of STD; however, some common emotions are feelings of self-blame, guilt, anger, despair, depression, shame, a feeling of being misunderstood, and fear. Lets discuss some of these emotions.

My Romantic Life Needs a Makeover. Can Psychotherapy Help?

My Romantic Life Needs a Makeover.  Can Psychotherapy Help?

Do you wonder why it has been so difficult to have a long-term satisfying relationship? Is it hard for you to meet new people? Perhaps you have no trouble meeting new people but find developing intimacy challenging? Maybe you have tried dating sites, exploring new social avenues, or even a match maker, but have you ever considered psychotherapy?