Most of the time when people hear the words mourning and loss they think about death, which undeniably makes sense, and yet the mourning and loss process is one that occurs around many stages of life.
You have been home with your new baby for the last few months. Your primary job has been that of caretaker; changing diapers, warming bottles, doing laundry, and so much more. The time has come to return to your previous job and you may wonder how you are supposed to make room for both these positions: parent and professional.
You told yourself that the sleepless nights that come with being the parent of an infant would be over soon. You reminded yourself that when your infant acquired language there would be less crying and less frustration. Maybe you looked forward to taking your little one to preschool and playdates. When you're a first time parent, and even sometimes when you're and second or a third time parent, you can fantasize about the toddler years in an idealized manner.
Are you a first time father? If you are, then you may likely be experiencing a kaleidoscope of emotions. Sure you are probably thrilled that you have a beautiful new baby in your life, whom you love enormously. However, there could be a number of other emotions that you are experiencing that may feel like things that are "not ok" to talk about.
You are about to become a parent or have recently become one. Naturally you want to experience all of the joys that arrive with parenthood and are expected to do so by society. You may also be experiencing an enormous amount of stress, which comes with the great adjustment to life that parenthood requires.
What happens when a person who lives with a chronic illness finds him/herself in a situation in which s/he has to care for someone else? This can be quite a balancing act and can follow with many feelings, such as confusion, guilt, ambivalence, exhaustion, anxiety, and even depression. How does a person find him/her self in such a situation and what can s/he do about it to cope as best as possible in the given circumstance?